June 15 was not a great success for Turning It Off. It was not an entire failure, but we could have done better. I didn't realize the kids were watching TV in their room after school. I wasn't watching the Angel Baby playing her games. I just didn't feel it. But then I was on vacation and didn't feel well, either. Yes, technology is a great babysitter sometimes. But I tried not to spend much time on the computer, the kids tried not to keep watching show after show and even the trucker didn't really watch anything either.
We discussed a change to Thursday or Friday. But after a while, I released everyone from the guilt of using gadgets by reminding them we have just started this adventure, we are bound to make mistakes. You know, life happens. I don't want this to be about being perfect. And I sure don't want it to turn into punishment either. I'm not going to ground my kids (don't tell them this) for blowing off media free day. I'm just trying to provide a better example for them while encouraging them to disconnect too.
In order to keep you in the loop for media free days, I will share something else. I have to share one of my biggest inspirations of late, particularly in having this time OFF and paying attention to my life as it is now. Hands Free Mama has written so many beautiful posts about living life. She encourages us and ourselves to just live the moments. Not stress for perfection but embrace the little moments. We all have Somedays that are not so great, where we feel like we have messed up or we are just not good enough. But she reminds us all, by reminding herself and sharing with us along her journey.
So when you finish reading my updates.. (yes, me first....hehehe) Head over there and see if you can make it through a post without tears. Can you read any of her stuff that doesn't hit home in one way or another? She is not running around telling everyone to turn off gadgets, this is something I have chosen, but she does advocate taking at least 20 minutes everyday to be present with your family. I always feel so good after reading her writing. I'm sure you will too.
In an effort to be happy, you need to share the happiness. Last night I sent a personal email to Rachel, and told her exactly what I feel when I read her blog. I thanked her for sharing these moments in her life and encouraged her to keep doing what she's doing. She deserves to know what a great thing she is doing and I wanted to make sure she did!
So, take some time today, whether you read there, or stay here, or don't read anything else at all...
...take a few minutes to tell someone how special they are to you.
...take a few minutes to really ask your kids how their day was and LISTEN to the answer.
...take a few minutes to find pride in yourself for an accomplishment today, no matter how big or small.
...take a few minutes to actually say I love you to your loved ones.
When I think of the great small moments I've been a part of for my family, I can't imagine what life would be like without them. What I might have missed when I was busy that could not have been replaced. I'm glad to be here.
Right in the middle of my life.
I agree. I really enjoy reading Hands Free Mama. I often get teary eyed and sentimental when I read her posts. :-)
ReplyDeleteThank you, thank you, Wendy! What a beautiful endorsement of not only my writing, but the concept in which I am trying to live my life! I wish I could express just how much your support and encouragement mean to me!
ReplyDeleteI look forward to sharing our steps on this journey together...even if we happen to go back a few steps along the way. It's not about perfection is it? At least we're heading in the right direction!